A couple of years ago, I decided I’d never date anyone else who was interested in me “despite” or “regardless of” my body. After years of humans who — no matter how kind or clever or fun they were otherwise — always seemed to have the kind of superiority complex that told them that, deep down, they were doing me a favor by dating a fat girl, I was over it.
I’ve been in a relationship with my current partner for over four years. But if anything ever happened, I’d want to be with another someone who actually loves my body. Ergo, someone who is turned on by it. This isn’t to be confused with “someone who loves me for my body,” and only that. But rather, someone who, like me, actually believes that fat can be beautiful and sexy and fuckable. Much like someone could believe that thinness can be beautiful and sexy and fuckable.
Someone first told me about WooPlus back in Nov. 2015, but the app has recently skyrocketed to the press’ eye, and to its fair share of criticism.Refinery29’s Liz Black took note of the app’s “condescending ads,” tweeting, “Like a plus size woman would be shocked a man thinks she’s hot.”
Blogger Callie Thorpe of From The Corners Of The Curve told ASOS, “It feels that instead of addressing the way plus size women are treated in society — and most certainly on the dating scene — we are having to further separate them.”
In the same article, curve model Felicity Hayward said, “To then make a separate dating app for bigger girls is a completely backwards step. There are no apps for girls under a certain weight, so creating something for bigger girls is basically segregating them from the norm. What’s wrong with using Tinder?”
SLiNK Magazine Editor Rivkie Baum told Huffington Post that WooPlus’ approach was “animalistic,” adding, “I can’t help feeling that continuing to make bigger bodies into a fetish by segregating them continues to make falling in love with someone above a size 18 seem unusual.”